Anxious Attachment and Reunion
Reunion triggers relief flooding followed rapidly by the reactivation of hypervigilance — the attachment system cannot fully trust that the return is permanent.
Brief parasympathetic release at reunion is quickly overridden by threat-detection circuits scanning for evidence the return will not last. Cortisol does not return to baseline quickly (Quirin et al., 2008).
Reunion in early caregiving was not consistently warm or reparative — the returning caregiver might be emotionally unavailable, requiring the child to continue protest rather than settle. The system learned that reunion does not mean resolution.
Clinging and difficulty resettling after the partner's return from even brief absences. Interrogating the absence, seeking reassurance that it will not happen again, requiring proximity to regulate.
Building a body-level record that departures are followed by genuine returns through consistent and warm reunion rituals. The secure base is built through accumulated experiences of reliable return (Ainsworth et al., 1978).
Ainsworth et al. (1978) documented anxious infant behavior at reunion as the defining feature of the C pattern. Bowlby (1973) identified the internal working model of the other as the organizing template for reunion expectations.
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