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The Intimacy Paradox (How the Wound Holds You at Distance From What You Most Want)

  1. Hook slide — The Intimacy Paradox (How the Wound Holds You at Distance From What You Most Want)

    The Intimacy Paradox (How the Wound Holds You at Distance From What You Most Want)

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  2. The insight — The self-abandonment wound produces a specific experience in intimacy: the moment when another person is genuinely cl...

    The self-abandonment wound produces a specific experience in intimacy: the moment when another person is genuinely cl...

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  3. The truth — The Intimacy Paradox (How the Wound Holds You at Distance From What You Most Want)

    The truth about the intimacy paradox (how the wound holds you at distance from what you most want)

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  4. Key takeaway — The self-abandonment wound produces a specific experience in intimacy: the moment when another person is genuinely cl...

    The self-abandonment wound produces a specific experience in intimacy: the moment when another person is genuinely cl...

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    Read the full piece at nikitadatar.com

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The self-abandonment wound produces a specific experience in intimacy: the moment when another person is genuinely close, when the walls are down and the interior is visible, feels not like arrival…

 

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