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Why You're Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable People

  1. Hook slide — Why You're Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable People

    Why You're Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable People

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  2. The insight — The nervous system does not choose the person who is good for you. It chooses the person whose emotional climate matc...

    The nervous system does not choose the person who is good for you. It chooses the person whose emotional climate matc...

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  3. The truth — Why You're Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable People

    The truth about why you're attracted to emotionally unavailable people

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  4. Key takeaway — The nervous system does not choose the person who is good for you. It chooses the person whose emotional climate matc...

    The nervous system does not choose the person who is good for you. It chooses the person whose emotional climate matc...

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The nervous system does not choose the person who is good for you. It chooses the person whose emotional climate matches the room where you learned what love was. The mechanism behind the pattern.

 

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The Neuroscience, Psychology, and Hidden Cost of Not Choosing Yourself

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