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The Woman I Was Performing Being vs. The Woman I Actually Am

  1. Hook slide — The Woman I Was Performing Being vs. The Woman I Actually Am

    The Woman I Was Performing Being vs. The Woman I Actually Am

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  2. The insight — For years, I dressed well, answered questions confidently, and looked like someone who was fine. I was performing a s...

    For years, I dressed well, answered questions confidently, and looked like someone who was fine. I was performing a s...

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  3. The truth — The Woman I Was Performing Being vs. The Woman I Actually Am

    The truth about the woman i was performing being vs. the woman i actually am

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  4. Key takeaway — For years, I dressed well, answered questions confidently, and looked like someone who was fine. I was performing a s...

    For years, I dressed well, answered questions confidently, and looked like someone who was fine. I was performing a s...

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For years, I dressed well, answered questions confidently, and looked like someone who was fine. I was performing a self I had constructed for safety. This is what that looked like and how I began to tell the difference.

 

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