If you are starting to name what happened to you.
The naming is the beginning. It is also one of the hardest parts, because naming it means the doubt no longer has the same protection. Before the naming, the uncertainty was a kind of shelter. After it, the shelter is gone and you have to stand in what is true. This is not a small thing. It is one of the most courageous acts available to a person. The naming does not require the other person to agree. It does not require proof. It requires only your own witness.
Read this first
On what happens in the body and the mind when the truth is finally allowed to be spoken. This is the entry for this moment.
Read this entry →Then this
If you are still not sure. The quiz is designed for the gray area, for the harm that is subtle enough to doubt.
Take the quiz →When you are ready
I wrote Was It Abuse? for the woman who needs language before she can decide. The book does not decide for you. It helps you see clearly enough to decide for yourself. Was It Abuse? on Amazon →