If you are here because a relationship is ending or has ended.
You are not falling apart. You are falling open. The grief of a relationship ending is not evidence that something went wrong. It is evidence that something was real. You do not have to be okay yet. The pressure to recover quickly is its own kind of violence. Stay with what is here. The other side of this is not an absence of feeling. It is a return to yourself.
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If you are still hoping, still waiting, still not quite believing it is over. This entry names what the waiting is actually about.
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Understand the relational pattern that was activated in this relationship. It will explain more than the relationship itself does.
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I wrote about this in The Waiting Is the Wound. About the specific grief of loving someone who cannot fully arrive, and what you are really waiting for underneath the relationship. The Waiting Is the Wound on Amazon →