If you went no contact and are sitting with the silence.
You made the decision. And now the silence is its own kind of loud. No contact is not the ending of the relationship. It is the beginning of processing what the relationship actually was, without the relationship still happening to you. The grief that arrives in the silence is not evidence that you made the wrong choice. It is the grief of the relationship you needed and did not have, finally having space to surface. Let it surface.
Read this first
On what families require silence about, and what happens in the body when the silence finally ends.
Read this entry →Then this
Understand what in the family system you are interrupting. It will help you stay clear about why the decision was necessary.
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I wrote about this specifically in Healing the Mother Wound. The chapters on individuation and the guilt of growing are the ones to read now. Healing the Mother Wound on Amazon →