If you are about to stay and you know you should not.
You know. You have known. The staying is not stupidity. It is not weakness. It is the way the nervous system returns to what it recognizes, even when what it recognizes is harmful. Familiar danger feels safer than unfamiliar safety. That is not a choice. That is a pattern. And the pattern can be understood, and the understanding loosens it. You are not stuck here forever. You are stuck here until the pattern has been seen clearly enough that the nervous system has a new reference point.
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The nervous system that returns to familiar patterns even when they hurt. This is why you stay. This is not a character flaw.
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If part of the staying is about not being sure what is happening is actually harmful. This quiz will help you see clearly.
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I wrote Was It Abuse? for the woman who is not sure what is happening is actually harmful. The doubt is part of it. The book meets you there. Was It Abuse? on Amazon →