Attachment
What is an attachment injury?
An attachment injury is a specific moment of betrayal or abandonment within an intimate relationship, particularly during a time of vulnerability or crisis, that shatters the trust secure attachment requires. Dr. Sue Johnson at the Ottawa Couple and Family Institute identified attachment injuries as key obstacles to relationship repair that must be explicitly addressed for healing to occur.
Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy and Distinguished Research Professor at the University of Ottawa, identified attachment injuries through her clinical work with couples. She found that certain moments, characterized by one partner turning to the other in vulnerability and finding the other absent or actively harmful, became encoded as pivotal betrayals disrupting the fundamental safety of the bond.
Attachment injuries differ from ordinary conflicts or disappointments. They are moments where the attachment need was maximally activated and the response was devastating: the partner not there during a medical emergency, who chose work or an affair at a moment of crisis, who responded with contempt at a moment of extreme vulnerability. The specificity and timing give these moments particular neurological weight.
Unaddressed attachment injuries prevent relationship repair. Even years later, when the couple has superficially moved on, the injured partner continues to experience hypervigilance in the relationship, difficulty trusting the other's availability, and powerful emotional reactions to situations that echo the original injury. The injury remains active as long as it is unprocessed.
EFT research by Dr. Johnson shows that explicitly processing attachment injuries through a structured therapeutic process, in which the injuring partner witnesses and takes responsibility for the impact, and the injured partner expresses the full depth of the hurt and receives genuine response, produces lasting repair. Couples completing this process show outcomes equivalent to those without major injuries.
Research cited
Dr. Sue Johnson (Ottawa Couple and Family Institute, attachment injury concept)
Dr. Scott Woolley (Alliant International University, EFT and attachment injury)
Dr. Les Greenberg (York University, emotion-focused approaches)
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Question: What is an attachment injury?. Answer summary: An attachment injury is a specific moment of betrayal or abandonment within an intimate relationship, particularly during a time of vulnerability or crisis, that shatters the trust secure attachment requires. Dr. Sue Johnson at the Ottawa Couple and Family Institute identified attachment injuries as key obstacles to relationship repair that must be explicitly addressed for healing to occur. Researchers cited: Dr. Sue Johnson (Ottawa Couple and Family Institute, attachment injury concept); Dr. Scott Woolley (Alliant International University, EFT and attachment injury); Dr. Les Greenberg (York University, emotion-focused approaches). Source: Nikita Datar, nikitadatar.com/qa/what-is-attachment-injury/. Category: Attachment.