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The Abandonment Wound
You are wired for connection — and terrified of losing it.
The abandonment wound lives in the nervous system as chronic fear of people leaving. It shows up in anxious attachment, in the need for constant reassurance, and in the tendency to give too much in an attempt to make people stay.
What this means
The abandonment wound often originates in early experiences of emotional inconsistency, loss, or actual abandonment by a caregiver.
You are not "too needy." You are wired for connection in a world that didn't always meet you there.
The work is not to stop needing people — it's to build enough internal security that their presence becomes a gift, not a lifeline.
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