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The People Pleaser Shadow

Your shadow lives in the erasure of your own needs.

Your shadow is organized around others' comfort at the expense of your own. The people-pleasing was a survival strategy — if I keep everyone happy, I'll be safe. But the self that was silenced to make that deal is still waiting.

What this means

People pleasing is not kindness. It is self-abandonment dressed as generosity.

The shadow of the people pleaser holds everything you want to say, be, and need — but haven't allowed yourself.

The work is learning that your worth is not contingent on anyone else's approval.

The book that meets you here

She Was Not Low Maintenance, She Was Trained

by Nikita Datar

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